At Koontz Photography, we believe your wedding should reflect your values and make everyone feel respected and included. In episode 5 of Offbeat On Point, Jenn Ross of Jenn Ross Photography and I dive into what it means to plan a wedding that honors respect and inclusivity. Here’s how you can create a wedding that’s truly authentic and welcoming for all.
Why Respect and Inclusion Matter in Weddings
Weddings are a celebration of love, but they should also be a space where every guest feels seen and respected. From the language you use to the way you handle traditions, creating an inclusive wedding can help your guests feel welcome and your celebration feel true to your values.
Respectful Language and Terminology
One of the first steps toward an inclusive wedding is being mindful of your language. Instead of limiting yourself to traditional terms like "bride and groom," consider using more neutral terms like "partners" or "spouses." Avoid gendered titles like "groomsmen" or "bridesmaids," and instead, use the term "wedding party." Being mindful of pronouns is also key—asking for pronouns on your RSVP cards or using inclusive language in your programs can make a big difference.
Respectful Wedding Party and Family Dynamics
When planning family portraits, communicate with your photographer about who is included and how to organize the photos. Make sure to ask family members who they want to be photographed with, and consider ways to include extended family or chosen family members.
Emotional Moments: Setting Boundaries
Respectful weddings also mean respecting each other’s emotional moments. Whether it's a father-daughter dance, a cake cutting, or exchanging vows, it’s important to set boundaries with your partner beforehand. Discuss how you’ll handle these moments, and make sure you’re both on the same page. For example, if you don’t want cake smashed in your face, agree on that in advance, and stick to that decision!
Inclusive Practices for Your Guests
Inclusivity doesn’t just stop with your language—it extends to how you plan your event. Offer accessibility options, such as a wheelchair-friendly venue or accessible seating. Provide sensory-friendly areas for guests who may need a quiet space. Consider offering multiple meal options, including dietary accommodations, to ensure everyone feels considered.
Thoughtful Planning: Respecting Each Other
Respect between partners is the foundation of a strong marriage, and it should also be reflected in your wedding planning. Consider private vow readings for those who feel uncomfortable speaking in front of a crowd. Take time to practice your first dance before the reception intros to calm nerves.
Why Inclusive Weddings Matter to Us
At Koontz Photography, we believe in creating a safe, welcoming space for all couples. Whether you're planning a non-traditional celebration or a classic ceremony, we want your day to be a reflection of your love story without compromising respect and inclusion.
